I am reading the BEST BOOK EVER ABOUT EMOTIONS AND HOW TO APPROACH THEM.
IT IS BRILLIANT AND YES I KNOW THAT I AM YELLING BUT SERIOUSLY, THIS BOOK IS THE BEST BOOK I HAVE EVER READ ABOUT EMOTIONS AND HOW TO APPROACH THEM!
Ok will stop yelling and repeating myself now. But this is the book I have been looking for since I got sober. It is targeting and answering all my questions about how to manage emotions.
It's called The Happiness Trap (which is kind of a silly name) and it is by Russ Harris who was interviewed on the Mindfulness Summit. It is based on the style of psychotherapy he does called ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and it is bloody brilliant!!
The blurb on the front of the book says: "The mindfulness based program for reducing stress, overcoming fear and creating a rich and meaningful life."
It is full of practical tips and easy to follow techniques on how to accept your emotions and detach from your thoughts about them - how to recognise the observing you and the thinking you and distinguishing between the two. How to not always believe your thoughts are real, don't let them hook you and carry you away into an inner dialogue which is unhelpful, don't try to over analyse them, don't seek answers to tough emotions or try to fight them or deny them.. oh my god I could try to summarise this book but really you just have to read it.
It is fantastic I am going to buy my own copy so I can own it - the one I am reading is from the library.
One of the tips he gave which I love so much is to say to yourself whenever you have a fear-based through or hear a limiting self-belief in your mind 'thank you mind' .. 'thank you mind for that unhelpful thought but now I am going to get on with what I am doing'.. i.e. you detach from the thought, thank your mind for creating it (in a warm but slightly condescending way!) and then you move on to the task at hand.
Also asking yourself often 'Is this a helpful thought?'.
So often we create so much bullshit with our thinking!!
I am doing well post summit with my mindfulness practice. I am doing lots and lots of semi-formal practice during the days (pausing to breath and take stock of what is happening in my mind and body, bringing myself back into the present by focusing on my breath or what is specifically in my hands/in front of my eyes at that very moment).. and I have even done teeny bit of formal practice, times where I have sat in a considered pose, shut my eyes and looked at what was happening inside my mind with a warm curiosity regularly stopping my thoughts from running away with me and bringing my focus back to my breath and the present moment.
Love, Mrs D xxx